10 Reasons Why Marriage Isn’t Boring & What To Do When It Is
You may be thinking, why is marriage boring?
Well, I’d say marriage is not boring.
How a marriage progresses or turns out depends on the couple.
From my experience of being married for nine years, marriage feels like dating and living together.
Let’s discuss why marriage is not boring and what to do when it feels that way.
10 Reasons Why Marriage Is Not Boring
Like any other relationship, marriage will face both good and bad times.
But how it fares depends on you and your partner.
Experts have repeatedly said that marriage takes effort from both partners.
Here are some reasons why marriage is not boring:
1. It’s like dating
Marriage feels like dating and living together.
The difference is that you’ve tied the knot and vowed to stay together.
The best part is that you don’t miss your partner because you’re together daily.
If you’re invested and in love, everything flows naturally.
You might think you’d get bored seeing your spouse all the time, but you won’t.
2. Routine can be good
Yes, life can become routine, but routine gives you control.
You know what to do every weekday morning, evening, and weekend.
Part of that routine is spending time with your partner.
Tell me that spending time with your spouse isn’t something to look forward to every evening.
3. You become good friends
You become good friends with your spouse.
Your partner knows what you like, and you have private jokes.
You know what upsets them and how to cheer them up.
That’s what good friends do for each other.
4. You feel safe
You feel safe when you’re married to someone you love and who loves you.
You can be vulnerable with them, and they’ll comfort you.
It’s beautiful.
5. You don’t have to prove yourself
After being married for years, you have nothing to prove to each other.
You’ve seen each other at your best and worst.
Your partner still loves you, even when you think you’re a mess.
You’d still look sexy to him in your pajama pants.
Is that boring?
I think not.
6. Married couples still play with each other
Who said you can’t play with your spouse the way you used to while dating?
Married couples still play and have fun in their own ways.
My mom and dad used to tease each other’s hometowns.
You might not see it, but it happens.
7. Overly romantic marriages are unrealistic
Who has the time to be romantic every day?
Overly romantic marriages are unrealistic.
What’s realistic is:
- smiling at your spouse,
- serving each other,
- doing chores together,
- saying thank you,
- showing interest in each other’s struggles and wins,
- listening to them vent,
- giving hugs and little kisses, etc.
If that makes marriage boring, then boring is good.
8. You learn to enjoy other things
Marriage allows you to enjoy new things with your partner.
I had never watched anime until I met John, and now we watch several anime together.
It’s a win-win when you share interests.
9. There’s more trust, less drama
When you’re married to a good person, there’s more trust and less drama.
You form a tight bond and value what you have, avoiding silly actions that jeopardize your marriage.
10. You know what’s important
When married, you understand what’s importantโyour family.
Your family’s well-being and happiness become top priorities.
What to Do When Your Marriage Feels Boring
Boredom in marriage can stem from various factors:
- Lack of intimacy
- Bringing work home
- Stress from raising kids
- Depending on your spouse for everything
- Comparing your life to others
Here are some tips to fix it:
Make time for intimacy
When intimacy is lacking, spouses begin to drift apart. Get spontaneous.
It doesn’t have to be in the bedroom all the time.
Try other rooms when you’re alone.
Create opportunities for intimacy.
Spend time with friends
Make time to hang out with your friends.
While you’re out, you’ll miss each other and look forward to being together again.
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Remember to kiss each other daily
It’s not hard to hold your spouse and kiss them.
Kiss when you wake up, during breakfast, as you leave for work, when you return, and as often as possible.
It shows you love and are still in love with them.
Make time for self-care
Keep boredom out of your marriage by doing what you love.
Treat it as self-care.
Find your self-care thing and do it.
Find a hobby you both enjoy
What hobbies do you and your spouse have in common?
Make time for them and do them together.
Get professional help
If you’ve tried everything and nothing is working, seek professional help.
You and your spouse need to agree to work together.
You’ll be okay in the end.
Conclusion
So, is marriage boring?
I don’t think so.
A “boring” marriage is often the kind that stands the test of time.
They’ve worked through hard times and are now quietly enjoying the good.
Enjoy marriage with your partner without looking for an audience, and you’ll be happy.
I hope this post helps you see how marriage isn’t boring.
What you call boring can be a sign of a good marriage.
Thanks for reading.
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