7 Things To Never Do To Your Husband When You’re Mad
All couples argue.
But it doesn’t always mean your marriage isn’t working.
Arguing with your husband once in a while is part of the relationship.
However, with proper communication, you can keep arguments minimal.
But this post isn’t about arguing with your partner.
It’s about what happens after the argument.
Sometimes, we get mad at our husbands and want to show it.
So we’ll do all sorts of hurtful things to them.
And while we think we’re winning the fight, we’re losing our relationships.
This post will discuss seven things you should never do to your husband when mad.
Let’s begin.
When I’m mad at my husband.
After arguing with my husband, I sometimes stay by myself and think about everything.
I sometimes wonder what I could have said to win the argument.
There’s nothing to win, lol.
Or sometimes, I want to cool off.
But while doing that, I try not to stay angry with him.
And honestly, during that time, I’m missing him like crazy.
So, I’m thinking of a way to get out of the funk and play with him again.
And sometimes, he makes it easier by cheering me up.
And let me be clear that all this happens within a day.
Because honestly, we hardly stay mad at each other for a whole day.
It’s not our style.
But everyone is different.
Well, let’s continue.
7 things we should never do to our husbands, no matter how mad we are
During arguments, you and your husband can get mad.
But after you settle your quarrels, things can go back to normal.
Maybe not immediately.
But it shouldn’t take days.
So, no matter how mad you are at your husband, here are things you should try not to do:
1. Denying our husbands sex
The most common way wives punish their husbands is by denying them sex.
Because you’re mad, you’d go days or weeks without being intimate with your husband.
And every time he makes advances, you reject him like the plague.
Or you even make yourself detached so your hubby can’t come close.
And when you agree to be intimate with him, you don’t participate.
It is degrading.
Most men would rather not be intimate than accept pity sex from their partners.
And when you deprive your beau, he would feel like he’s not good enough.
Which can lead to less and less intimacy in your relationship.
And you don’t want that.
So it’s okay to be mad, but never let anger take the place of intimacy in your marriage.
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2. Denying your husband food
Another thing some of us do when we’re mad is deny our men food.
I understand that you’re mad, and the last thing you want to do is make food for your partner.
I’ve been there several times.
But my husband and I always eat together.
So even when we’re mad at each other, we still have to eat together.
Sometimes, he makes the food and calls me to eat or vice versa.
We might eat quietly.
But while eating, we start talking and get out of the funk.
So it’s okay to be mad at your man.
It’s okay not to feel like making him a plate.
However, it shouldn’t become the order of the day.
Also, things can get awkward when you’ve gone days without making food for each other or eating together.
Also, for someone like me, I’d feel bad for mistreating the one I love.
Hope this makes sense.
3. Kicking your husband out of the bedroom
Do not kick your partner out of the bedroom when you’re mad.
I’ve heard that you must not go to bed mad at your spouse.
And that’s okay.
But sometimes, you need to sleep over the argument.
And talk about it in the morning with a fresh mind.
But never sleep in separate rooms.
Don’t intentionally move apart from your husband.
It can kill your relationship pretty fast.
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4. Bad-mouthing your husband to your family when you’re mad
After arguing with their husbands, some women call to tell their friends and families everything.
If you’re doing that, please stop.
The worst thing you can do is bad mouth your spouse to your family when you’re mad.
If you’re angry with him, keep it between you.
Some wives even bad-mouth daddies to the kids when they’re mad.
The moment you start telling everyone what’s going on in your marriage, you’re putting your relationship at risk.
And if you want to tell someone, speak like you understand your husband’s viewpoint.
Avoid talking like you’re always right, and he’s just stupid.
If you tell people your partner is foolish, they will believe you.
And they will treat him as though he’s stupid, indirectly affecting you.
Also, you’re messing up your kids if you say bad things about their dad.
Please don’t make your kids see their dad as evil because you’re mad.
Instead, let the kids know that you’re just mad for now.
But you’ll be okay.
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5. Name-calling during and after an argument
I need to add this.
Some women think they’re tough because they can say mean and hurtful words to their husbands.
Let me tell you: name-calling doesn’t show strength.
It only shows one is horrible, abusive, and weak.
And because they’re incapable of arguing like adults, they oppress their spouses with mean words.
Mainly because they know their partners won’t engage in name-calling.
Don’t ever insult your husband, no matter how mad you are.
And if he calls you out of your name, make it clear you won’t tolerate such acts.
Of which name-calling is verbal abuse and shouldn’t be accepted in any relationship.
6. Keep a grudge after an argument
Please don’t keep a grudge after a fight.
I understand you’re still upset, but please don’t stay mad forever.
Grudge builds resentment, which drives a wedge between you and your husband.
So after an argument, try to make up.
Then continue loving each other like the argument was “one of those things.”
And that’s what it is.
Arguments are one of those things.
7. Never hit your man
Lastly, no matter how mad you are at your husband, please never hit or throw things at him.
That is unacceptable.
And it is called domestic violence.
Please, it’s best to walk away than hit your husband.
Some people say you’re a woman; your hit is not brutal.
I’m not a domestic violence expert.
But I know throwing things at people can hurt them.
And we don’t want to hurt our loved ones.
Please call the domestic violence hotline if you’re in an abusive relationship.
Wrapping up! 7 things you should never do to your hubby no matter how upset you are
So those are seven things we shouldn’t do when mad at our husbands.
Always think of how to work out issues with your spouse.
And don’t let every argument get heated to the point where you’re angry and name-calling.
You’ll be okay. I’m rooting for you.
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Thanks for reading.
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