Why Embracing Intimacy in Marriage is Nothing to Be Ashamed Of
Okay, let’s get into it.
I’ve come across some tweets that shame people for wanting to get married with sex as one of their reasons.
And I have to wonder—why does this bother anyone?
Sure, sex isn’t the only reason to get married, but it’s certainly a part of it for many people.
I read an article where couples shared why they wanted to get married.
One bride-to-be was surprised when her fiancé listed intimacy as one of his reasons.
This reaction is common.
Unfortunately, it’s not just strangers on social media who make us feel bad for wanting intimacy in our relationships.
Sometimes, we experience this judgment within our own marriages, too.
Many women have posted about rejecting their husbands’ advances with comments like, “Is it food?”
Meanwhile, others who embrace intimacy openly can feel judged by their peers.
But here’s the thing: if sex is important in your marriage, that’s perfectly okay.
In this post, we’ll explain why you shouldn’t feel ashamed for wanting intimacy in your marriage.
Let’s dive in.
Why You Might Not Be Having Sex in Your Marriage
There are many reasons intimacy fades in marriage.
And it’s worth exploring them without judgment.
Here are some common ones:
Body image
After kids, you might feel less confident about your body.
And that can impact how you feel about intimacy.
I’ve been there too.
With my husband’s encouragement and my self-care efforts, I started feeling more like myself again.
Open communication with your spouse and reassurance can go a long way here.
Stress
Parenting and the constant “to-do” list can leave you exhausted.
After a long day, sleep might seem more appealing than sex.
But if you feel like this often, try to ease up on your schedule or postpone some tasks.
Making time for your partner matters, too.
Low sex drive
Stress, anxiety, or even hormonal changes can lower sex drive.
And while it’s natural, what’s important is being open with your partner so you can work through it together.
Many times, both partners want a little understanding and a plan that works for both.
Loss of attraction
It’s tough to admit, but sometimes attraction fades.
And if intimacy is something you both value, it’s okay to discuss it or even seek help together.
Being clear about what you need can help you both be on the same page instead of drifting apart.
Silent treatment
When conflicts arise, giving each other the cold shoulder can make intimacy feel out of reach.
Holding onto anger builds walls between you two.
A little forgiveness can help clear the air and bring you back together.
5 Reasons Not to Be Ashamed of Wanting Intimacy in Your Marriage
Now, let’s talk about why it’s perfectly fine to prioritize intimacy with your partner.
Intimacy is natural—everyone is doing it
Intimacy is a normal part of marriage.
Why let others’ opinions affect your choices in your own relationship?
You value a strong connection with one partner
If you value having one dedicated partner, that’s a good thing!
Embrace it, and don’t let anyone make you feel weird about prioritizing intimacy with your spouse.
You’re an adult, and it’s your decision
We’re all adults here, right?
You have the freedom to make your marriage your own.
If that includes lots of love and intimacy, that’s entirely your call.
You and your partner are aligned
When you and your partner are on the same page about intimacy, it can strengthen your bond.
Don’t let others decide what’s “too much” or “not enough” for you.
It’s your marriage, your rules
At the end of the day, this is your marriage.
If intimacy is a priority for both of you, then let that be part of your bond, guilt-free.
Wrapping Up
We get married for so many reasons, and everyone’s priorities look different.
For me, intimacy was important, just like other aspects of a partnership.
I won’t let anyone shame me for it, nor should you.
So, has anyone ever made you feel judged for wanting a loving, intimate marriage?
I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
Thanks for reading.
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